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WITandWISDOM - February 5, 1999
"Half of the confusion in the world comes from not knowing how little we need. . . . I live more simply now, and with more peace." - Richard Evelyn Byrd
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~~~~~~~ SPECIAL THOUGHTS:
He was in the first third grade class I taught at Saint Mary's School in Morris, Minn. All 34 of my students were dear to me, but Mark Eklund was one in a million. Very neat in appearance, but had that happy-to-be-alive attitude that made even his occasional mischievousness delightful.
Mark talked incessantly. I had to remind him again and again that talking without permission was not acceptable. What impressed me so much, though, was his sincere response every time I had to correct him for misbehaving - "Thank you for correcting me, Sister!" I didn't know what to make of it at first, but before long I became accustomed to hearing it many times a day.
One morning my patience was growing thin when Mark talked once too often, and then I made a novice-teacher's mistake. I looked at him and said, "If you say one more word, I am going to tape your mouth shut!"
It wasn't ten seconds later when Chuck blurted out, "Mark is talking again." I hadn't asked any of the students to help me watch Mark, but since I had stated the punishment in front of the class, I had to act on it.
I remember the scene as if it had occurred this morning. I walked to my desk, very deliberately opened my drawer and took out a roll of masking tape. Without saying a word, I proceeded to Mark's desk, tore off two pieces of tape and made a big X with them over his mouth. I then returned to the front of the room. As I glanced at Mark to see how he was doing he winked at me. That did it! I started laughing. The class cheered as I walked
back to Mark's desk, removed the tape and shrugged my shoulders. His first words were, "Thank you for correcting me, Sister."
At the end of the year I was asked to teach junior-high math. The years flew by, and before I knew it Mark was in my classroom again. He was more handsome than ever and just as polite. Since he had to listen carefully to my instructions in the "new math," he did not talk as much in ninth grade as he had in the third.
One Friday, things just didn't feel right. We had worked hard on a new concept all week, and I sensed that the students were frowning, frustrated with themselves - and edgy with one another. I had to stop this crankiness before it got out of hand. So I asked them to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then I told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.
It took the remainder of the class period to finish the assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed me the papers. Charlie smiled. Mark said, "Thank you for teaching me, Sister. Have a good weekend."
That Saturday, I wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and I listed what everyone else had said about that individual. On Monday I gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" I heard whispered. "I never knew that meant anything to anyone!" "I didn't know others liked me so much!"
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. I never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another again.
That group of students moved on. Several years later, after I returned from vacation, my parents met me at the airport. As we were driving home, Mother asked me the usual questions about the trip - the weather, my experiences in general. There was a light lull in the conversation. Mother gave Dad a side-ways glance and simply says, "Dad?" My father cleared his throat as he usually did before something important. "The Eklunds called last night," he began. "Really?" I said. "I haven't heard from them in years. I wonder how Mark is."
Dad responded quietly. "Mark was killed in Vietnam," he said. "The funeral is tomorrow, and his parents would like it if you could attend." To this day I can still point to the exact spot on I-494 where Dad told me about Mark.
I had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. Mark looked so handsome, so mature. All I could think at that moment was, Mark, I would give all the masking tape in the world if only you would talk to me.
The church was packed with Mark's friends. Chuck's sister sang " The Battle Hymn of the Republic." Why did it have to rain on the day of the funeral? It was difficult enough at the grave side. The pastor said the usual prayers, and the bugler played taps. One by one those who loved Mark took a last walk by the coffin and sprinkled it with holy water.
I was the last one to bless the coffin. As I stood there, one of the soldiers who had acted as pallbearer came up to me. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. I nodded as I continued to stare at the coffin. "Mark talked about you a lot," he said.
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates headed to Chucks farmhouse for lunch. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting for me. "We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. I knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which I had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him. "Thank you so much for doing that" Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
Mark's classmates started to gather around us. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home." Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put this in our wedding album." "I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary." Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said without batting an eyelash. "I think we all saved our lists."
That's when I finally sat down and cried. I cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
Written by Sister Helen P. Mrosia
Submitted by Joanne Kull and Marye McKenney
~~~~~~~ THIS & THAT:
DEAR PASTOR Part 2 of 2
Please pray for all the airline pilots. I am flying to California tomorrow. Laurie. Age 10, New York City
I hope to go to heaven some day but later than sooner. Love, Ellen, age 9. Athens
Please say a prayer for our Little League team. We need God's help or a new pitcher. Thank you. Alexander. Age 10, Raleigh
My father says I should learn the Ten Commandments. But I don't think I want to because we have enough rules already in my house. Joshua. Age 10, South Pasadena
Who does God pray to? Is there a God for God? Sincerely, Christopher. Age 9, Titusville
Are there any devils on earth? I think there may be one in my class. Carla. Age 10, Salina
I liked your sermon on Sunday. Especially when it was finished. Ralph, Age 11, Akron
How does God know the good people from the bad people? Do you tell Him or does He read about it in the newspapers? Sincerely, Marie. Age 9, Lewiston
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~ ~~~~~~ KEEP SMILING:
My 5-year-old daughter was asked by her teacher what her father does, and she replied, "Whatever my Mom tells him to."
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IT'S OFFICIAL: NO 'DEMOTION' FOR PLANET PLUTO
WASHINGTON (Reuters) - Finally, after weeks of controversy, it's official. There will be no "demotion" for Pluto. Pluto has always been something of a misfit among the other major planets, but a move by the International Astronomical Union last month that some felt would have reclassified it as a minor planet drew howls of protest.
Nearly 10,000 such small heavenly bodies have been counted so far, and there was a sentimental move afoot to give Pluto the round number 10,000 as a tribute to its recently deceased discoverer, Clyde Tombaugh. Within that group, Pluto could have been classified among dozens of so-called Trans-Neptunian Objects whose orbits cross Neptune's, as Pluto's will February 11.
Pluto has never quite fit in with the other major planets. It is small and craggy where the other planets in the outer solar system are big and gassy; it is less than half the size of any other planet; its orbit tilts up from the solar system plane and is the only one to cross another planet's; and its satellite, Charon, is larger in proportion to it than any other planet's moon.
But Pluto has always been a star with earthlings. When it was discovered in 1930 it was one of the biggest stories of that year, and Walt Disney named Mickey Mouse's dog in its honor.
Copyright 1998 Reuters Limited. All rights reserved. February 3, 1999 http://www.cnn.com/TECH/space/9902/03/pluto.saved.reut/